Secondary narcissism, on the other hand, “attempts to annul the pain of disappointed [object] love” and to nullify the child’s rage against those who do not respond immediately to his needs; against those who are now seen to respond to others beside the child and who therefore appear to have abandoned him. Patho­logical narcissism, “which cannot be considered simply a fixation at the level of normal primitive narcissism,” arises only when the ego has developed to the point of distinguishing itself from sur­rounding objects. If the child for some reason experiences this separation trauma with special intensity, he may attempt to reestablish earlier relationships by creating in his fantasies an omni­potent mother or father who merges with images of his own self. ”Through internalization the patient seeks to recreate a wished-for love relationship which may once have existed and simulta­neously to annul the anxiety and guilt aroused by aggressive drives directed against the frustrating and disappointing object.”

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