As is said sometimes, homosexuality influences the rate of births, or is unacceptable to our sense of morality, etc. If the Church in the first centuries was after such problems, Christianity would not exist today. Our thinking of this problems should be determined by the question, if a homosexual as such becomes a worse person, a stranger for (what we consider to be) the truth, therefore, even before that, by the question of the meaning of sexual attraction in general.
According to a common sense, sex ‘completes’ mutual contact. This mistake includes also a truth, because, when I love someone, I love him as a whole, spirit and body. In the completeness of love, to the degree that love is real, what is the part of bodily love? Whatever that part is, we should have it also with our parents, friends and children, regardless of age, gender or any other factor. Then, if a nice body attracts, and if this attraction was meant to complete our relationship, old men could live only an inferior love, just because they are not desired. And what could we say for ugly persons, even young, or ill, deformed…?
What for evil souls is an occasion to be immersed to the impersonal, between lovers means a contact towards greater maturity – little joy mixed with disappointment, which recedes naturally in the joy of the real fulfillment of their contact, to the degree that they understand who granted them even the moment they played an immature game. As a loving relationship grows genuine and real, sexual attraction impedes.
The ‘progressive’ teaching of so called psychotherapists, counseling couples how to have sex until the old age, etc. is indeed appalling, it shortens man, not understanding that, from an aspect, each of us lives constantly in this body of humiliation, his own and his friends’, almost as if he was living in the blood of a great wound. It is, therefore, a matter of life and death, not of compliance with some ideal purity of an ideology. To the degree that I know the other, there is revealed the Measure in which all of what is his, spiritual or corporeal, take for me their proper unity and meaning.
With virginity belonging to the highest point of love, the Church blesses marriage temporarily, and rather tolerates than wishes it. “This work is a work of the flesh”, St. Symeon of Thessaloniki was saying about marriage. “Where is death, there is marriage”, says John Chrysostom. Marriage is not always something pointless, but it is always something small, so that, we don’t hope to the tripling of it in same-sex unions, but to the transformation of marriage, when it grows where love is perfected and pervades beyond the couple, the family becomes wider reaching the size of the church.
As we become unable to understand these realities and the Church vanishes, there is no point in referring to Christianity as ideological pretense for same-sex marriages to be condemned: we are all just adults, responsible to decide whom we are going to live with and marry, and any objection to this has no real base.