Homosexuality influences the rate of births, or is unacceptable to our sense of morality, etc. – if the Church in the first centuries was after such problems, christianity would not exist today. Our thinking here is to be determined by the question, if a homosexual as such becomes a worse person, closed against the truth, therefore, even before that, by the question of the meaning of sexual attraction in general.
There is sometimes said that sex ‘completes’ our contact, and this mistake includes also a truth, because, when I love someone, I love him as a whole, spirit and body. In the complete love, to the degree that it is complete and real, how is love of body contained? If it is contained in the way of sexual intercourse, then we should have such intercourse with our parents, friends and children, independently from age, at that. Then, if a nice body attracts, and if this attraction was to complete our love, old men could live only an inferior love, just because they are not wanted, to the degree that Goethe was observing about old age to be “a gradual departure from public appearance”. And what could we say for ugly persons, even young, or ill, deformed, etc?
What for evil souls is an occasion to be immersed to the impersonal, between lovers means contact and course towards a greater maturity – little joy mixed with disappointment, which will recede naturally, without violence, in the joy of the real fulfillment of their contact, to the degree that they understand who granted them even the moment they played an immature game. As a loving relationship grows genuine and real, sexual attraction impedes.
The ‘progressive’ teaching of so called psychotherapists, counseling couples how to have sex until deep old age, etc. is indeed apalling, it shortens man, not understanding that, from one aspect, each one lives constantly in this body of humiliation, his own and his friends’, almost as if he was living in the blood of a great wound. It is, therefore, a matter of life and death, not of compliance with some ideal purity and ideology. To the degree that I know the other person, there is revealed the Measure in which all of what is his, spiritual or corporeal, take for me their proper unity and meaning.
With virginity belonging to the highest point of love, the Church blesses temporarily the marriage, and rather tolerates marriage than wishes it. “This work is a work of the flesh”, St. Symeon of Thessaloniki was saying about marriage. “Where is death, there is marriage”, says John Chrysostom. Marriage is not always something pointless, but it is always something small, so that, we don’t hope to the tripling of marriage in same-sex unions, but to the transformation of marriage, when it grows where love is perfected and pervades beyond the couple, the family becomes wider reaching the wideness of the church.